“can you be good friends with your ex?”
ok. let’s face it. whenever there’s a breakup, it’s usually never mutual. usually one person is the one that causes or initiates the breakup and is labeled “heartbreaker“, while the other person is left hurting and dwelling on the breakup for weeks on end. ok. i admit. even the heartbreaker could hurt too, but usually the one who initiated the breakup moves on faster than the one who didn’t.
after having meditated and burned incense on this question, my friends and i have come to the conclusion that NO, it’s very rare for many people to become truly good friends with their ex’s.
so why can’t ex’s remain friends?
here’s some reasons i’ve read on why the can’t:
- there’s always a heartbreaker and the heartbreakee. same as mentioned above.
- you know what they look like underneath all those clothes. you’ve seen each other naked. whenever you smell their special perfume or cologne, or whenever you hear music that was special to the both of you, you’re always going to remember that person and the things you used to do together ( ie, make love, make-out, etc)
- you can’t divulge intimate details about your current relationship to your ex. it would just be wrong for you to tell your ex you just had the greatest sex of your life with someone else.
- bitterness comes into play. an ex can pretend to be a friend, but deep down they’d rather see you and your current partner dead (jk).
- jealousy. seriously - who really likes seeing their ex being lovey dovey with someone else anyway?
*CAN YOU BE GOOD FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX?*
…yOu gUyz teLL mE…
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